MY TOP TIPS ON HOW TO PLAN A WEDDING YOU REALLY WANT (AND NOT GO BANANAS IN 3 SIMPLE STEPS)
Wedding planning can be so overwhelming, I know, but fear not! I’ve come to save the day. Here are my top wedding planning tips, and the 3 simple steps that will help you with how to plan a wedding without losing your mind:
WEDDING PLANNING TIP 1 –
Before you start booking anything, or even looking into venues, dresses and suppliers, sit down together and figure out WHAT’S THE MOST IMPORTANT THING FOR YOU on your wedding day.
Choose only one or two things and write them down on a big piece of paper. Put it somewhere where you’ll see it every day and make sure that from that moment forward, every decision you make in your wedding planning process is to make it happen.
For some couples, the most important part is to have fun or throw the party of the century, for others it’s to spend time with family. It could be to make sure you have some time to yourselves or anything that makes the both of you happy. Whatever it is, my number one wedding planning tip is to make sure you keep this priority as the biggest wedding planning priority – because if you’re having a good time, everyone else will too.
WEDDING PLANNING TIP 2 –
Choose suppliers who understand these goals and who have a similar frame of mind. Make sure you tell them what’s important to you and what you’re thinking.
You two will have talked about this many times on your wedding planning journey so it might seem obvious but your vendors have no reason to know because every couple is different. If you make your top priorities clear from the beginning, it will be a lot easier for them to advice you and help you get there.
WEDDING PLANNING TIP 3 –
Now, imagine yourselves on that day. It’s super important during your wedding planning to remember to put yourself in your metaphorical wedding shoes – what do you actually want to be doing? Do you want to be mingling with guests and enjoying your reception drinks or do you want to be standing for half an hour taking formal photos? Do you want to make sure you have 20 minutes to yourselves to really take in the day and have a private chat or do you want to be rushing onto the next thing? Do you want to try and fit in as many things as possible or do you want to go with flow?
A lot of couples will choose to follow certain traditions just because it’s the done thing. Don’t be afraid to ditch those to create time for what you really want to be doing. No one is going to be upset if you decide you don’t want to do the cake cutting. If being the center of attention isn’t your thing, don’t do a first dance, kick off the party straight away instead. Knowing that you can choose NOT to do certain things is as important – if not more – than realizing you can do whatever you want when you’re wedding planning.
That’s it! My number one tip for how to plan a wedding is as simple as that: decide what’s important and every time you make a decision ask yourselves: “does this go towards or against what makes us happy?”
This will help with decision tiredness and hopefully will stop you from getting overwhelmed by all the choices. When you’re immersed in something like wedding planning, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. Writing it down and making sure you see it every day will help with this.
On the day, the details won’t matter as much as you thought. They set the scene and they make the wedding personable, of course, but as long as you have that one thing that matters most to you, everything else will follow and you’ll have a great time regardless.
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